Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts

Friday, 1 March 2013

Spiritual Man

Today’s Gospel Text:  Now the tax collectors and sinners were all drawing near to hear him. 2 And the Pharisees and the scribes murmured, saying, "This man receives sinners and eats with them." 3 So he told them this parable: 4 "What ---- 10 Just so, I tell you, there is joy before the angels of God over one sinner who repents.11 And he said, "There was a man who had two sons; 12 and the younger of them said to his father, 'Father, give me the share of property that falls to me.' And he divided his living between them. 13 Not many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took his journey into a far country, and there he squandered his property in loose living. 14 And when he had spent everything, a great famine arose in that country, and he began to be in want. 15 So he went and joined himself to one of the citizens of that country, who sent him into his fields to feed swine. 16 And he would gladly have fed on the pods that the swine ate; and no one gave him anything. 17 But when he came to himself he said, 'How many of my father's hired servants have bread enough and to spare, but I perish here with hunger! 18 I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you; 19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son; treat me as one of your hired servants."' 20 And he arose and came to his father. But while he was yet at a distance, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. 21 And the son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you; I am no longer worthy to be called your son.' 22 But the father said to his servants, 'Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet; 23 and bring the fatted calf and kill it, and let us eat and make merry; 24 for this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.' And they began to make merry.  25 "Now his elder son was in the field; and as he came and drew near to the house, he heard music and dancing. 26 And he called one of the servants and asked what this meant. 27 And he said to him, 'Your brother has come, and your father has killed the fatted calf, because he has received him safe and sound.' 28 But he was angry and refused to go in. His father came out and entreated him, 29 but he answered his father, 'Lo, these many years I have served you, and I never disobeyed your command; yet you never gave me a kid, that I might make merry with my friends. 30 But when this son of yours came, who has devoured your living with harlots, you killed for him the fatted calf!' 31 And he said to him, 'Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours. 32 It was fitting to make merry and be glad, for this your brother was dead, and is alive; he was lost, and is found.'" LK 15:1-3, 11-32

Reflection: Why do people avoid making friends or avoid going to a new place or a gathering of peoples? Is it on account of pride or vengeance or a lack of respect towards the invitee? Could be!

But there could be another reason, which is normally a dormant subconscious activity in the minds of people who would want to fellowship and go for such functions or gathering. This discomfort could be on account of variety of subconscious factors.

Similarly, some people could attract, it is not just pretty and handsome people we talk about, but also people with certain charism’ too.

But if one is hurt then the very one that could normally attract could now become a repellent. 

Similarly, there is an attraction which could be in any realm or area of talent; in such situations one could be attracted to sports and sports people or politics or academics or particular talents or types of services.
But there is an universal appeal to the spiritual realm too wherein people could get attracted to people who are spiritually bent and may seek to follow them.

Here one must be cautious and remind oneself that spiritual and spirituality doesn’t automatically qualify the spiritual for a following, they can also be deceivers; wolves in sheep clothing.
    
"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves.  Matt 7:15
  
So you also outwardly appear righteous to men, but within you are full of hypocrisy and iniquity. Matt 23:28

One way to judge them is to look at the fruit they bear and that too we need the Lord’s help and grace; for even otherwise our salvation is in the Lord, who has established for us the institutions necessary for our salvation.

Prayer: Lord, you guide me by your right hand always, to walk in your path. 

DD = Dedicated Discipleship:  Come grow in the Lord with us

Friday, 9 November 2012

Friends of Jesus

Today’s Gospel Text:  And I tell you, make friends for yourselves by means of unrighteous mammon, so that when it fails they may receive you into the eternal habitations.
10 "He who is faithful in a very little is faithful also in much; and he who is dishonest in a very little is dishonest also in much. 11 If then you have not been faithful in the unrighteous mammon, who will entrust to you the true riches? 12 And if you have not been faithful in that which is another's, who will give you that which is your own? 13 No servant can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon."  14 The Pharisees, who were lovers of money, heard all this, and they scoffed at him. 15 But he said to them, "You are those who justify yourselves before men, but God knows your hearts; for what is exalted among men is an abomination in the sight of God. Luke 16:9-15
Reflection: “How to make friends and influence people” is one of the best selling self help book ever published and has sold over 15 million copies worldwide.

Thought the book contains valuable thoughts on the essentials of friendship and relationship yet it could lead one to manipulative methods to achieve a particular goal viz. friendship at any cost.  

The book talked about the techniques of handling people and the many different ways to make people like you as a person. It talked about the 12 ways of influencing people to your way of thinking and without being offensive to them.

Was it a new methodology in pleasing people or a technique based approach to winning friends without caring for the individuality of others?

One key thought the book highlights in order to achieve one's goal is to either get the other into your way of thinking or get into their way of thinking.

In other words one should have friendship as their goal in life and nothing else in order to use this methodology to achieve it.

This is not how it is with Christians: You cannot get someone to your way of thinking or get into someone else’s way of thinking. In that you could end up a looser and condemned for all eternity.

We have a perfect person in Christ Jesus and he can be the center of all friendship. Get into his way of thinking and do not bother much about friendship.  Because he is a friend that is complete and satisfies and we really do not need another.

If are gifted with friends in the course of proclaiming him as the perfect person to follow then we thank Jesus for his generosity. But in no way we can compromise with the friendship of Jesus.

Prayer: Lord, we thank you for you no longer treat us like servants, even though we are your mere servants. 

DD = Dedicated Discipleship:  Come grow in the Lord with us

Wednesday, 10 October 2012

Friend

Today’s Gospel Text:  And he said to them, "Which of you who has a friend will go to him at midnight and say to him, 'Friend, lend me three loaves; 6 for a friend of mine has arrived on a journey, and I have nothing to set before him'; 7 and he will answer from within, 'Do not bother me; the door is now shut, and my children are with me in bed; I cannot get up and give you anything'? 8 I tell you, though he will not get up and give him anything because he is his friend, yet because of his importunity he will rise and give him whatever he needs. 9 And I tell you, Ask, and it will be given you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 10 For every one who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. 11 What father among you, if his son asks for a fish, will instead of a fish give him a serpent; 12 or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? 13 If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!" Luke 11:5-13


Reflection: So goes the saying; “a friend in need is a friend indeed.”

Friends can be of great help, especially in times and situations where relatives cannot reach us.

A friend always understands us better unlike close relatives. Unlike good friends relationship with close relatives carry a whole lot of family hurts and sensitivities which makes sharing difficult; though this is no excuse, for us, not to reach out to our relatives when in need.

Here in the gospel we have a beautiful example of one friend reaching out to another friend seeking the help of a third friend, all done to make one rightly comfortable; food for the stomach is more important than sleep. which good friend should not be willing to sacrifice their sleep in order to cater to this need?

Jesus presents to us God as our friend, who cares and loves us and even reaches out to us. He is a God of all providence. Despite the many blocks and obstacles we have in our lives he still answers us.

The greatest revelation about God, given to us by Jesus is the attitude required of the one who supplicates; an attitude of Faith and confidence, manifested by perseverance and importunity.

They who ask in faith or seeks or Knocks will find a sure answer with the one with whom all things are possible.

But do not forget to ask for the greatest and the best thing that one could ever ask for; the Holy Spirit.

For without the help of the Holy Spirit we will lack confidence and may never know whom to ask for bread and whether our friend has enough bread to provide for our need. 

Prayer: Lord God, you are more than a friend to us, give me the help of your Holy Spirit to ask all those things that glorifies you.

DD = Dedicated Discipleship:  Come grow in the Lord with us